Pop quiz: Acts of self-control reduce subsequent acts of . . . (a) impulsivity and over-indulgence (b) poor decision-making (c) saying or doing things we’ll later regret (d) sticking with a new activity that began as a New Year’s resolution (e) all of the above. Answer: Most people would choose (e) – we have been […]
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All This Self-Control is Wearing Me Out
Posted in Emotions/Inner World, Having Fun, Personal Growth, Psychology, Valentine's Day on February 14, 2012 | 1 Comment »
“You’re never going to change.”
Posted in Idiosyncracies, Personal Growth, Wisdom on January 28, 2012 | 1 Comment »
This was not a compliment. There was no accompanying sigh, but the disappointment seemed audible. I had been summed up and found to be flawed. Dismissed.
Perfecting the Shrug
Posted in Emotions/Inner World, Existential, Personal Growth on December 3, 2011 | Leave a Comment »
I’m trying on a new life philosophy. It lacks elegance, it lacks sophistication, but what it has is the kind of simplicity that life philosophies should have. It’s based on a change in the fundamental premises by which I have built my life: What if I stopped taking things so seriously, stopped assuming that each […]
Strange Gift
Posted in Emotions/Inner World, Personal Growth on October 14, 2011 | Leave a Comment »
I spend much of my life working with people to release their firm grip on the metaphoric steering wheel in their lives, giving up the fruitless notion of control, surrendering to the absolute “OK-ness” of any given moment, since to fight against reality leads only to discontent. Or madness. The stuff of dark gothic novels […]
The Invitation
Posted in Existential, Personal Growth on August 3, 2011 | Leave a Comment »
A few days ago, a dear friend invited me to join in something that pushes the edges of my sense of self. Nothing dangerous or illegal, not even too silly (which I’d rarely decline anyway), but something that would require me to enhance and enlarge a part of my identity, and to move toward reclaiming […]