Some days, “goodness” is defined more simply. A break in the weather. Errands completed with relative ease. My son has a good day at school and responds by my 4th nagging request to get off the computer. My husband returns from his 12-hour day energized and fatigued, rather than exhausted and depleted. I manage to […]
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Definition of a Good Day: My Father Didn’t Die and I Didn’t Kill my Mother
Posted in Acceptance, Aging, Anger, Daughters, Death/Loss/Grief, Fathers, Fear, Friendship, Meditation, Writing on January 30, 2014 | 2 Comments »
(Sometimes) I’m a better wife when my husband’s not around
Posted in Marriage, The Genders, Wives on January 5, 2014 | Leave a Comment »
I can think of all the right things to say, all the kind, compassionate ways to acknowledge, “Yes, Darling, I know you’re in pain.” I can be open to feedback and receptive to his points of view, which are galaxies away from mine. I can grant that these points of view are valid. I am […]
What if I missed Hot Flashes and have gone directly to Emotional Swings?
Posted in Emotions/Inner World, Menopause, Midlife, Women on December 9, 2013 | 1 Comment »
On the Monopoly board of women’s lives, there is the Women’s Reproduction corner square, right where Jail is on most boards. Sometimes you are just visiting, early enough in the game when you start getting monthly periods and everything you once knew about how this game was played has just shifted. Can I wear white […]
“I’m Right Here”
Posted in Daughters, Dogs, Feminism, Isolation/Belonging, Love, Mothers, Youth on October 26, 2013 | Leave a Comment »
Instead of a diary, I told my dog the things I told no one else, believing that she alone knew me. I told her who I loved, what I was scared of, things about me I hated, things I hoped for. I recounted the injustices, slights, and micro-cruelties I had suffered. Or at least believed […]
Getting Lost
Posted in Children, Existential, Fear, Mothers, Parenting, Wisdom on September 7, 2013 | Leave a Comment »
The topic of the lecture was to find the good in the unexpected, the benefit of having to veer off one course and, before plotting the next, experience the freedom of getting lost. To set out without knowing where one is going. To wander for 40 years, if need be, before making one’s way to […]